Why do you

want to get married?

ByHanna Shiferaw

Why do you want to get married?
Most people get married for the wrong
reasons.

Some because they think they are too
old to be single; others because of
what they fantasize about marriage;
some others (especially women)
because they think  they have to
hurry to form a family because they believe they have  very
limited time and are afraid nobody will want themif they get
older. Some others because they have achieved economic freedom,
they think the next job in life is to get married and have a family; others they
think they reach at a certain age level that they or the society as a whole
believes is the right age to get married; and so on.

However, marriage goes way far ahead of these reasons. It is a big life
commitment that needs careful attention and planning.

When you think of marriage, if you are going to do it for one of the reasons
above or for some other wrong reasons, I advise you to think again.
Because one of the reasons why many marriages fall to work out today
is because, at the beginning they were not built up on for the right
reasons.   

Marriage has its own purpose. The right reason to get married is the purpose
that marriage is designed from the beginning. The basic purpose of marriage
is to satisfy our deepest human need, companionship.

Our need for companionship is deep. It is difficult to live without satisfying it.
Marriage is designed to fill it. We need someone around in our happy and sad
times in life. We are not designed to live alone.
It is not good for the man to be alone. Genesis 2:18
Therefore, we need a real person, a real marriage partner, not just someone
we get married because we think we are too old to be single or because
we think now should be the right time to get married. Marriage goes
far more than that.

Besides, marriage is a lifelong commitment, for better or for worse.  
I am going to emphasize on these; lifelong commitment and for better
or for worse. There are so many things that cross marriage life. Sometimes
it will be difficult to pass them. You just want to cut it off and run away.
But you get married primarily to love, support or care for your spouse in any
kind of happiness and challenges that life gives him/her.

So, think twice. Why do you want to get married? It seems difficult or
impossible to get married for the right reasons often; because you may be
surrounded by different kinds of challenging situations or thoughts.
But God will do that for you if you let him. He is so desperate to give
you a successful union that can give you rest and peace. Give him the chance,
and be patient until he uses the time he needs about your marriage.