Why do you want to get married?

ByHanna Shiferaw

Why do you want to get married? Most  people get married for the wrong 
reasons. 

Some because they think they are too old to be single; others because of
what they fantasize about marriage; some  others (especially women) 
because they think  they have to hurry to form a family because they believe 
they have  very limited time and are afraid nobody will want themif they get  
older. Some others because they have achieved economic  freedom, 
they think the next job in life is to get married and have a family; others they 
think they reach at a certain age level that they or the society as a whole 
believes is the right age to get married; and so on. 
 
However,  marriage goes way far ahead of these reasons. It is a big life 
commitment that  needs careful attention and planning. 

When you  think of marriage, if you are going to do it for one of the reasons 
above or  for some other wrong reasons, I advise you to think again. 
Because one  of the reasons why many marriages fall to work out today 
is because, at the beginning  they were not built up on for the right 
reasons.   

Marriage has its own purpose. The right reason to get married is the purpose 
that marriage is designed from the beginning. The basic purpose of marriage 
is to satisfy our deepest human need, companionship.

Our need for companionship is deep. It is difficult to live without satisfying it. 
Marriage is designed to fill it. We need someone around in our happy and sad 
times in life. We are not designed to live alone. 
It is not good for the man to be alone. Genesis 2:18 
Therefore, we need a real person, a real marriage partner, not just someone 
we get married because we think we are too old to be single or because 
we think now should be the right time to get married. Marriage goes 
far more than that.

Besides,  marriage is a lifelong commitment, for better or for worse.  
I am going to emphasize on these; lifelong  commitment and for better 
or for worse. There are so many things that cross  marriage life. Sometimes 
it will be difficult to pass them. You just want to  cut it off and run away. 
But you get married primarily to love, support or care  for your spouse in any 
kind of happiness and challenges that life gives him/her. 

So,  think twice. Why do you want to get married? It seems difficult or 
impossible  to get married for the right reasons often; because you may be 
surrounded by different kinds of challenging situations or thoughts. 
But God will do that for  you if you let him. He is so desperate to give 
you a successful union that can  give you rest and peace. Give him the chance, 
and be patient until he uses the  time he needs about your marriage.