Before you get married

ByHanna Shiferaw

Let me ask you some questions if you have a plan sooner or later to get in to a marriage. Ask yourself the following questions. They will help you to see your preparedness and adjust your mindsets.

1. Why do you get married?
People get married for different reasons; with majority of them for the silliest reasons. Some, because they think they are too old to be single, others because they achieved economic freedom they think the next step is getting married and form a family, others by the push of families or friends, some others to have children, and so on. These reasons are very foolish to get in to a marriage. Marriage is far ahead of that. One of the main reasons why marriages fail today is because of the reasons they are entered. If one of the above reasons is your reason to get married, think again. You are destructing the life of two people. Yours and the person you are going to marry. Marriage is God’s answer for our deepest need companionship. You both need a companion; a true friend, lover and supporter to share your feelings, thoughts, sad and happy times. There are many ups and downs in a marriage. You need someone real to share your tears and laughs.

2. Do you prepare yourself to be a good spouse?
Most people get married for the wrong expectations. They expect much from their spouse. However, when you get married prepare yourself to be a good marriage partner. Can you carry, love and take care of your spouse in whatever life matter s/he passes. Do you think you have the passion to do that for him/her? Do you love him/her that deep?

3. What are your expectations about marriage?
What do you expect from your marriage? Good marriage is build up on right expectations. If you expect all happiness from marriage, I think you are becoming an idealist. You are going to marry a human being not an angel. Marriage is a great institution but it is not perfect at all. Expect happiness as well as sadness, good times as well as bad times, laughs as well as nags.
Thus, before you get married test yourself. Test everything you are doing. A good marriage builds you while a bad marriage costs you quite a price.